When we are bullies our kids are much more likely to be bullies too.
As I was writing the notes to this episode something reminded me of another in person experience that both rattled me and showed exactly how the energy moves from parent to child. A mom in my daughter’s class is a real bully. She has a little group of other mean girl mom friends and they spare no vitriol when interacting with other parents. She is unkind, mean, aggressive and judgmental. And then I remembered a time this past summer when the girls told me that her son was being a jerk in a chat, calling the girls feminist sluts, saying white power, white lives matter and all kinds of hateful and racist, sexist bullshit. And I realized, it all comes from his mom. And maybe his dad. I can see them fitted into the illustration of the mom’s hatred going right through him. It’s like a cycle that feeds itself.