I wanted to tell you a personal story about breaking patterns, maybe you will relate 🙂
I am a music mom, two of my three kids are musicians, the third we don’t know yet, he hasn’t started playing any instruments formally. My daughter is a pianist, drummer and singer, my son is a drummer in a band and a pianist.
I spend countless hours waiting for them to do their music lessons after school, I admire their hard work and their passion, and I love how it manifests in their day to day life. For example, when I take my teenage daughter to a music festival she can explain to me and appreciate different structures and complexities of different compositions, from electronica to rock. I think that’s pretty cool 🙂
When I was a kid I wanted to play the cello. And I was told that I wasn’t musical, so that was that. I loved music lessons and soaked up the few drumming lessons we had and loved trying out the bass.
But my mom said she wasn’t musical, so I wasn’t musical, so that was that.
Maybe I wasn’t. But maybe I was.
Either way, the story was that I wasn’t so there was no point in me playing music.
I’m not telling you this story for you to feel bad for me though, I want to share a lesson I learned.
The point of this story is to break patterns. To choose what you want to keep and get rid of what you don’t.
When my daughter was a baby I noticed that she had exceptional fine motor skills with her fingers. When she was just a few months old I bought a cheap keyboard to put under her hands when she did tummy time. I figured it would be good for her brain development to move her fingers and get a sound response. I have no idea if it was but she loved it 🙂
When my kids wanted to play music, I decided to not put my story of “not being musical” on them, but to let them explore.
I chose to break that pattern.
I saw all the benefits playing music has to their happiness and development, so we encouraged them to play as much music and experiment as much as they like.
And they do 🙂
So it turns out that my kids are musical. And they are also really hard workers. And playing music has brought them so much positive beyond the cool factor of being musicians.
So I encourage you to look at the patterns in your life, what do you want to keep and what do you want to get rid of? What would benefit from a shift in perspective? How can you see things from a different view to bring you more joy?
Write it down, sit with it. Make a list. Decide what you want to keep. And get rid of what you don’t.
Thank you for spending some time with me today 🙂