One of the most important thing for me is kindness. I am one of those people who thinks of a goal and then do whatever it takes to get to that. Same with kindness.
I don’t think we all need and have the same kind of ways to show and receive affection. We all have our own love language, right? We all have different ways to express and understand things like love and kindness.
I think about this a lot, because the most important thing in my life, for me is to be a great mom, to my kids. Then it’s important for me to be a good partner and a great friend. Social connections and relationships are the most important things for me, no question.
You might have heard me say it before 🙂
My three kids are really different personalities. If you are into enneagrams at all, they are all different ones and they need to be shown and taught kindness in slightly different ways .
In our house, being kind comes first.
For example, if there is a new kid in school, and there is often, we live in a very transient place, we talk about how you make them feel welcome and safe in their new place. So the focus is not on what we do, but on how they feel, and when thinking about making someone feel a certain way we have the awesome opportunity to not only think of different ways to be kind, but it’s a great opportunity to depend your capacity for empathy, to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
So you might think that kindness means being a pushover or not having integrity, and I can assure you that it does not. Kindness and integrity are great companions, because integrity is being kind to yourself, establishing and maintaining your boundaries. Kindness isn’t being selfless all the time, it’s considering the other person’s feelings and practicing empathy.
When a new kid comes to school, our rule is, you do not have to be best friends, but you always always have to be kind. And imagine how they feel and then make sure you are not leaving anyone feeling sad or hurt from something you did. To always be intentional. And to apologize when you inevitably fuck up. And listen.
So one of the core values of the Schaer family is kindness, and the same goes for our company. One of the core values of Mamatoto is kindness. It’s in all the things we do, no product or program reaches the public without having gone through the kindness filter.
I have a super friendly and kind community and I would love for you to join me. Join me in The Nest at www.mamatoto.info/thenest and get all the instructions to be part of our community in all our secret nooks and crannies.